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Bullying vs. Play Fighting

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Bullying is….

A person is being bullied or victimized when he or she is exposed, repeatedly and over time, to negative actions on the part of one or more persons.
(OLWEUS, 1991)

 

Conflict is a normal part of growing up.  Normal conflict may require some adult assistance in resolving issues, but typically teens learn how to work out their differences on their own.

Bullying is different because it involves danger of someone being physically or emotionally hurt.

 

Look over the chart.  Identify examples of normal conflict vs. bullying.

 

NORMAL PEER CONFLICT

 

BULLYING

Equal power or friends

 

Imbalance of power, not friends

Happens occasionally

 

Repeated negative actions

Accidental

 

Purposeful

Not serious

Serious with threat of physical or emotional harm

Equal emotional reaction

Strong emotional reaction from victim and little or not emotional reaction from bully

Not seeking power or attention

 

Seeking power, control or material things

Not trying to get something

 

Attempt to gain material things or power

Remorse-will take responsibility

 

No remorse-blames victim

Efforts to solve the problem

 

No effort to solve problem

 

 

Friendly Teasing vs. Hurtful Teasing

 

We have talked about all the different kinds of bullying.  In middle school, two forms of bullying in particular-verbal aggression in the form of teasing and sexual harassment- get trickier and more complicated.  Let’s look at both….

 

FRIENDLY TEASING              VERSES              HURTFUL TEASING

 

Equal power; friends                vs.                            Imbalance of power;
                                                                                Not friends

Neutral topic                           vs.                           Sensitive topic

 

Playful purpose                        vs.                          Purpose to upset

 

Purpose is to include                vs.                          Purpose is to exclude

 

Funny                                     vs.                          Sarcastic